Kindness and Social Politeness during a Pandemic

Kindness and Social Politeness during a Pandemic

According to the urban dictionary, the definition of kindness is doing something and not expect anything in return. Kindness is being friendly, respectful, and considerate. In these times of pandemic, we are all being affected socially and emotionally. Being kind, warm, and gentle is needed, now more than ever.

Some people had no trouble in isolating themselves, making jokes about how little their social routine has not changed… Let's be honest, this is disturbing. There is a difference between being an introvert and having no interest in others and the outside world whatsoever.

In a time and era where communication is considered as one of the easiest and most accessible things, many are still struggling socially. Being too socially awkward to fake a smile or start a conversation with the cashier at the grocery store, is not normal human behavior.

Human relationships were already in peril before the pandemic. We should not give this pandemic more power than it already has on our lives, or use it as an excuse to get away from each other.

At the moment, too many of us are living in fear of other humans. It is understandable, but don't give in to rude and savage attitudes when someone walks too close to you at the grocery store. Don't look at the ground if you see someone walking on the other side of the street.

Instead, wave and smile, say pardon me and move on. Grunting at people and shouting to others to stay away, has never been a polite or kind way to interact with each other. It certainly should not be tolerated now because of the pandemic.

Being kind to one another will requires courage and strength. It is actually considered an interpersonal skill to be kind to strangers. So please, if you do have that skill, at last use it well to spread warmth, generosity, and concern.

We should take this pandemic as an occasion to relearn, how to connect with other humans, without the use of technology. Having a generic conversation about the weather, with your neighbor might make his day a little bit brighter if he is in isolation on his own.

If you want to stay home the whole time, until the isolation regulation starts being more flexible, go for it. Although, keep in mind when you do go out, at the grocery store, or the drugstore, that just like before people can be clumsy and inattentive sometimes. This is not a reason for being rude.

Some of us did not go in full survival mode and it is their choices. Just like it is yours if you decide to get your groceries and medications delivered.

Being cautious around others is a great way to be kind, but as mentioned earlier we shouldn't expect others to be as cautious around us. We can only hope to inspire others to do the same in the future.

Concerning survival mode, you probably heard about Darwin's theory about the survival of the fittest.

This concept is often associated with selfishness implicating that to survive we should look out for ourselves only. However, Darwin was convinced that humans were deeply social and caring creatures. He even argued that our sympathy and concern for one another was an instinct of ours.

Aristotle also said: "Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual. Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god."

We can deduce from these saying that we are better together than apart. Throughout his life, Darwin changed his theory many times and explored and developed a new concept he called social virtue. In his book The Descent of men he mentioned: "A tribe including many members who, from possessing in a high degree the spirit of patriotism, fidelity, obedience, courage, and sympathy, were always ready to aid one another, and to sacrifice themselves for the common good, would be victorious over most other tribes; and this would be natural selection."

The whole point of this article is for people to recentre and realize that we are part of one gigantic tribe. It is not time for hate, it is not time for hostility, and it is not time for disgust. Those who practice those kinds of behaviors are making the situation much worst than it is for everyone.

It is time for humans to come together, support each other, and be kind. Everyone should make an effort to safely elevate and increase their social interactions because kindness can be a powerful, and enriching tool to help us through any kind of crisis.